This is the fifth entry in Jane Ann McLachlan’s October Memoir and Backstory Blog Challenge.
At my fifth birthday party
Nobody looks happy. That’s me in the middle, wearing the corsage of tuberoses.
The most striking memory from that time has made its way into my fiction. I must have been five, maybe six, when my mother bought a beautiful red suit. I don’t remember her trying it on, but I’m sure she must have modeled it for my father. She would have been so pretty wearing it. What I remember is her crying in the kitchen after he told her she’d have to take it back.
“We can’t afford it,” he said.
I was old enough to be distressed by my mother’s tears but not old enough to understand the complexity of love or the helplessness of witnessing someone else’s sadness.
My father had grown up during the depression. He had sold the service station by then and opened an automobile parts store. He went to work at six in the morning and came home at six at night, six days a week. He would have given my mother and me the world, if he could, but he saw that red suit as an extravagance. (It probably was.)
My mother did what he said. She took the red suit back.
Memory turns to story
That memory translated many years later into a short story set in the 1950s about a young farm wife who has had a stillborn child. The baby’s room has been cleared out, and her husband is at work on the farm all day. She goes into town to take some unused baby clothes back to the local store and sees a red dress in the store window. She uses the store credit to buy the dress.
Here’s a bit of “From This Distance,”* published in Arkansas Review some years ago:
Iris opens the box and unfolds the tissue. The silk dress isn’t fire engine red, but something different: maybe the color of maple leaves in late October. She lifts it out of the tissue and holds it up. Sunlight filters through it. She unbuttons her cotton dress and lets it drop to the floor, and the red dress floats down over her body like water. She can only see herself from the hips up in the mirror, but the dress looks fine. She feels pretty in it.
That afternoon, she gathers fresh tomatoes, cucumbers, and onions from the garden and makes Peter’s favorite buttermilk dressing. She puts a ham in the oven to bake and makes bread, potato salad, and a lemon icebox pie. She sets the table in the dining room with their wedding china and puts a basket of daisies in the middle. Then she bathes, puts on a little makeup, dresses, and pins her hair up the way Peter likes it. By the time she hears him pull up to the barn on the tractor, she’s been ready and waiting for an hour.
When Peter walks in, he slaps his keys on the kitchen counter, drops into a dinette chair, and rubs his hands over his face hard before he sees her standing there. He looks her up and down. “Where’d you get that dress?”
Iris smiles, but already she feels the stirring of what she’d felt in the yard that morning, that at any moment she might fly apart. “At Gordon’s,” she says. She smooths her hands down the front of the dress.
Peter scrapes the chair back, goes to the refrigerator, and takes out a beer. He rummages through a drawer for the opener, tosses the top into the trash can under the sink, leans back against the counter, and takes a drink. All before he speaks. “How much did you pay for it?”
She hasn’t thought about having to explain about the credit.
Peter waggles the beer bottle at her. “Too much, I’d bet.”
“I don’t see what—”
“You’ll have to take it back. We can’t afford anything extra right now. Not until I see for sure what the crops are going to do. It’s too risky.” He drains the bottle and drops it in the trash can. “You know that.”
“I know, but I thought it would be nice if we—if I—fixed myself up a little. I thought—”
“Never mind what you thought. Go take it off before you get something on it and they won’t take it back. What do you need a red dress for? You can’t wear it to church. It’s cut too low.”
Iris lowers herself into a chair, her heart pounding. This isn’t the way things are supposed to go. She fingers the skirt. So soft. Tears well up, and he sees. He walks over and pulls her up out of the chair and holds her. “I know you want it. Maybe next spring, you can buy yourself something special, but not now.” He lets her go. “I’m going to take a shower. Supper smells good.” He walks out of the room . . .
She sits still for a minute, then stands up heavily and walks out of the kitchen, feeling more cumbersome than when she was pregnant.
My mother never saw any of my writing. I’d like to think it’s okay with her for me to use “her” material.
When were you first aware of someone else’s sadness or anger? How did it make you feel? Have you used that emotion in your writing?
*If anyone is interested in reading all of “From This Distance,” you can find it atEBSCOhost (the Arkansas Review doesn’t maintain an online archive). I’m a little hesitant to recommend it to you since it was written a long time ago, and as I edited here, I found myself revising it!
19 thoughts on “If Mama’s Not Happy: A Sad Story”
Such a cute photo of you! Your poor mom. I bet she felt badly for your father and felt badly for buying the suit and making him have to ask her that. What a difficult situation.
Well, it wasn’t the end of the world, but she had her heart set on that outfit. I doubt that he had ever told her no about anything before that, but he was trying to get a business off the ground. More about that tomorrow! Thanks, Veronica.
Thanks for this. I struggle some with real life material going into my fiction. Mostly, I forget to do it. When I do, it all gets too real. This example helped me see how to make it work!
I’ve had people mistake fiction for memoir! Thanks for reading and commenting, Joy.
This is really fantastic, Gerry. What a lovely and sad story. You are a very good writer, I can see that already in just the small snippets I’ve read. I’m really enjoying this blog challenge.
Todd, thank you so much for taking the time to read all these posts. I appreciate the kind comments. I’m enjoying the challenge, too, so far–wondering when I’m going to hit the wall! Please do come back, and I’ll be checking in with you, too.
I love the fact that it comes from a real story. I think our best work does. I agree with Becca. You were a most adorable child. I can see were the elegant woman comes from. What a treat.
I’ve heard it said that the trick is to capture the emotion, not necessarily the specific event. If you can write with that much feeling, it’ll work every time. Not melodrama or sentimentality, just that honest, raw feeling. Thanks for the sweet comment! I appreciate it.
So powerful. Wonderful how a childhood memory can become such a moving scene in our fiction.
Kim, it tends to creep into my stories whether I intend for it to or not. Thanks for reading and commenting.
Oh yes, Gerry, those feelings when you’re small – that you don’t even understand yet – stay with you all through your life!
It took me a long time to understand what was going on with my mother. I had to be an adult, a mother myself, really, before I figured it out. That’s another story!
This is beautiful and deeply moving. I like the way you relate it to the other story, so the two form a haunting refrain of husband=wife relations. And I love the way you use it to talk about becoming aware of other people’s sadness. I remember the first time I heard my mother cry – I think I was 12! It was terribly upsetting.
“From This Distance” is indeed a story about grief. I wish it were archived online, but it’s not. It’s very open-ended, but I think grief is like that; who can predict the “end” of grief? Thanks for the lovely comment, Jane Ann.
Beautifully written. Your mother would be proud. –Gale
Wow, Gerry, just wow! The story has so much weight. I can’t remember being aware as a child but I sit with my grandmother once a week now and she’s waiting to die. The hopelessness of that, the sense of loss she feels already, is suffocating. Thanks for the inspiration.
You’re doing an important, loving thing for your grandmother, Kasie. Good thoughts and love to both of you. You’ll write about her at some point, I expect. Thanks for the lovely comment.
Very touching story!! And you are absolutely adorable in that picture!!!