I visited Misk Cooksthis morning where Misky shares recipes and some of the most beautiful photographs of food you’ll see anywhere. Today there’s a gorgeous photo of rape fields in Sussex and a link to Mellow Yellow Monday, where you’ll find lots of other photos, weekly prompts, and the rules for participating.
So if your Monday is blue, you might give MYM a try.
Here’s my “yellow” offering for today’s Monday Discovery.
The best way to describe Esther is to let her do it in her own words:
Esther Bradley-DeTally is a writing teacher, creative process coach, author, community activist. She has written two books, Without A Net: A Sojourn in Russia, and You Carry the Heavy Stuff. Just out is The Courage to Write, An Anthology. She is editor of this book and writing teacher to those within its pages. The Courage to Write is published by Falcon Creek Books and is a publication of the Pasadena Public Library, The La Pintoresca branch/Pasadena READS.
Her writing is whimsical, spiritual, serious, laugh out loud funny and offers themes with keen observance of what it means to be human. Someone once said her stuff was “A refreshing read that combines a depth dimension with the tragicomedy that is life.” She is a Baha’i with a passion for making oneness a social reality, fascinated by ordinary people transcending their own inadequacies and limitations in homage to a vision.
She jumps out of airplanes to visit pug dogs, and her best times are with Mr. Bill, her husband and pal extraordinaire, family, and her inner circle of 700 friends.
Being on Watch—Second Bout With Cancer (Spring 2007)
What day do I run to? Does my twin Elizabeth think of this? Her body is a mere cipher. She’s buying the farm. How do I run to her call, “Help me, help me, help me,” which starts just after dawn and carries through the day and night? I jolt out of bed at 5:30 and run into her room, a two-second trip. Early mornings and late evenings require me, her twin. No one else can help at the moment. Bill covers the ritual of medicine doses, and Lindsey and Matthew—her son and his wonderful wife—are going to start staying over.
Liz worries about my dying alone. “Who will you have?”I reassure her, and then I fantasize my demise. I would notrealize this was a religious choice reference—that she fearedmy acceptance of Bahá’u’lláh would hold me back. At thetime, I laughed and said, “I’ll be fine.”
An Essay: I Feel It in My Bones
I always said, “I want to go out lying on a huge bed withhundreds of pug dogs over me, as I feebly say, ‘Put the lastone on that space over my nose above my lips.’” So under asnuff and snort, I’d end my days. Strange is this getting older.This is going to be an essay. I feel it in my bones. Tonight,my words slough off this day of sitting next to Liz, tryingto get hourly liquids into her.
I sit in her kitchen at the computer which makes its “Urr urr”noises, like a new baby. It’s quiet in the kitchen as I reflecton our life as twins. Now, we are beyond the personalitiesof our twin selves. We are finally down to what reallymatters. Like Liz, I am waiting to return home, except it’s notmy time, and I’m still on earth duty, in dirt city, on PlanetEarth. I want to go home to Pasadena.
“What Day Do I Run To?”
Today someone in the writing group posted a question,“What day do I run to?” What does that mean? Then Ithought, this is one of my middle-of-the-night questions whenI get up and think, when does it end? I, always the frailertwin, have survived heart surgeries and other stuff.It helps at night to sit in her kitchen at the computer andplay with writing prompts from our CHPerc site for writers.The basic question is, “Where do I run?” “When do I run out?”
Did I tread the mystical path on practical feet? Did I hoof hard? Was I a solace? Now, it’s just enough to realize, parts of me are like a big old watch. On what day will I stop ticking?Will it be 2:00 in the afternoon or 2:00 at night? Where will theworld be then? Meanwhile, I’m on watch, and I’m writing.Here in Liz’s kitchen on a quiet Idaho night, I think of us,Liz and me. We were the survivors. We’ve always had eachother—like book ends. My brother John has been missing foryears, and my older sister (Meb, for Mary Ellen Bradley) diedat fifty. Liz and I were it.
A Dvorak Dissonance
Meb was a Girls Latin Scholar and later an unwed mother. “Go tell Dad, he’ll understand” backfired, and she was sentaway. She had the baby by herself in Quincy Hospital, butthen, as she turned eighteen, she took her baby out of fostercare. She married her young love and had three more kids.Her husband left her, so she became a pianist in cocktaillounges. She drank too many drinks offered by grateful customersstanding by her piano in a club lounge. Life unraveled,and she ended up on the streets, in housing tenements, dyingin a hospital, the same Quincy Hospital where she gave birth. She was alone, poor, alcoholic, and had emphysema.When my twin and I were seventeen, our mom died. Iremember Liz and I taking the trolley into downtown Bostonand answering the sales lady’s query, “Why do you have tohave black dresses?”
My twin is the essence of “don’t tell,” and she never discussesfeelings about family. She would tell me during lastyear’s radiation treatments. When she was ten, standing inour long, graveled driveway, she said to herself, “I’m on myown now. I have to take care of myself.” My mother’s alcoholismhad burst out. The Twelve Steps programs were newlyemerging, and the doctors would send our mother to a privatesanatorium, give her shock treatment. And what about us, Lizand me? She was the sturdy one, good at sports, tree climberpar excellence, devotee of “Bobby and the B-Bar Ranch” radioshow and “Sgt. Preston” and his dog King. And me—softy,wimp, reader, reader, reader, pathfinder of all the childhooddiseases—feeling my mother’s pain. Our early lives had aDvorak dissonance, later transiting to the spiritual sound of“Coming Home.”
It’s a Symphony, This Life
As I await my twin’s death, I want to tell you it’s a symphony, this life. First, the sacred wounds inflicted upon the soul, and time and twists and colors and sounds, cymbals, drums, some bells and whistles of the funky kind. And the colors—fuchsia, black, gray, stripes of every hue and finally the color blue, a Mediterranean blue—an embracing veil ofsilken color, obliterating memories of my twin’s despair of mybelieving in more than Jesus. Also fading are the memories ofcriticism’s early work. I hope when it comes my time topass—come to a reckoning, a passage into a final exam, a leapof gladness, the warrior path almost finished—that I be worthyto meet my Creator. I think before I go, I’ll give a finalglance at a world back from tilt and furor, and I’ll catch faintsounds of a new symphony, an oratorio, celebrating unity andsplendor for the human race.
For thought and action: What day do you run to? Where is your solace? Esther and Gerry would love to have your comments here!